“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.”
– John Pierpont Morgan
We wrestle with change possibly more than with anything else in life…
- Is it the right thing to do?
- Will I regret this decision?
- How do I know what choice to make?
- I don’t like where I’m at in life, but I don’t want to do something about it either.
- Isn’t there another way?
- What if doing what’s best for me unintentionally hurts someone else?
- What if I do this thing and then realize it wasn’t the right thing to do?
- What if I fail?
Questions and thoughts similar to the above occupy at least some space on a daily basis for most people.
Change is a certainty for all of us—it’s also the only way out of situations we don’t like. And yet, we fight it.
Life is like an ocean.
You don’t stand on a beach wondering why one wave has to disappear before another rolls to shore. You accept the ebb and flow, the different sizes of waves, the jumble of varied life that exists in each surge, and high and low tide.
Fighting those things would not only be frustrating, but it would also be exhausting, stressful, and joined by a sense of futility. Refusing to accept change or create a needed change gives similar results.
You can reach into a wave, but you can’t hold on to it. If you want to experience another wave, you have to let go and trust that another will enter your life.
The same is true for people, jobs, money, etc.
Go to the beach…
If you want to experience waves, it’s more likely to happen if you at least go to the beach.
Likewise, it helps to be honest, a good friend, a good lover, someone who works at improving positive skills, and in general, a good person—all of those things are similar to showing up on the beach of life.
Change means not staying where you are. If something isn’t going the way you want, be willing to go to “your beach.” The next wave (job, friend, lover, etc.) will roll in because you put yourself in a space that allows and encourages it.
Relax. Have a picnic. Fly a kite…
Sometimes change happens quickly, but not always. So, while you’re waiting, have a picnic. Enjoy the sights and people already in your life. Try something new.
Happiness and gratitude are attractive. Plus, if you have to wait, why not have a little fun?