Forgiveness can be a delicate topic to talk about.
It is not always easy to forgive, but the liberation that comes with it can open many doors to a much happier life.
I have been through my fair share of hurts, sad break-ups and disappointments too. But what I’ve learnt from these experiences, is holding onto to them won’t make my life any better. Instead, shifting my awareness and becoming willing to forgive, brought many blessings and healing into my life.
Forgiving somebody doesn’t mean you agree with what they did… Not at all.
What it really means is not giving the past situation to control your life anymore. Although it is not always easy to forgive, doing so can set you free. You want to feel good and you want to enjoy life. You deserve it. You are forgiving someone for You and for your peace of mind. I have a few suggestions that may inspire you.
To be able to forgive someone else, first you need to be able to forgive yourself!
We have all done things we may not be proud of. All of us are guilty of something. That’s okay. You are always learning and growing (spiritually and as human being). You are not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, not even five minutes ago. Forgive yourself and set yourself free.
I have a beautiful affirmation that once came to me in my meditation. I use it every time I’m being hard on myself and think about the unwise choices I once made:
‘I forgive myself for my past mistakes, I’ve learnt from them.’
It gives me a permission to rise above the past, and tune in to the truth of who I really am (a powerful soul that is learning a lot on this journey called life).
Forgiving others is not always easy, but it is possible. Be willing to forgive. By having the slightest willingness to forgive, you have taken the first step towards setting yourself free.
It took me quite some time to forgive certain people and I am continuously in the process of doing so. But now I know, I have chosen wisely to set on the path towards forgiveness.
Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you have to be associating with them. You are forgiving them, so you can move on with your life. This way, you can invest your precious energy on what really matters to you.
When you are not ready to forgive…
I am not here to tell you, that not being able to forgive somebody would make you look like a bad person. Absolutely not. Sometimes, you may not be ready to forgive just yet. Don’t be hard on yourself. In time, you might be ready.
My suggestion? Let it be.
Let the experience stay in the past and stop revisiting it. Until then, be kind to yourself and do not let your mind wander to the places you don’t want to go anymore. Focus on the present moment, because that’s the only place where the real life exists. When the right time comes, forgive.
Remember you always have a choice. You can choose to hold on to the past or you can choose to let it go. It is safe to forgive. It is safe to let go. Be grateful for the lessons you have learnt along the way. They helped you to become the person you are today. You deserve to live a happy and fulfilling life. Break the spell, be willing forgive and set yourself free.